What is the first question you should ask of anyone when you begin a new relationship? You would think it is about income, pets, allergies, prior relationships, family... wait, back up one. Yes, prior relationships. No, oddly it isn't, "Are you married?" It isn't about a flute in bandcamp, whether it's cheating if it's your dog, that one special night at a sleepover, prison love, or any other ewwww moments. Ask, "Am I married???"
I am acquainted with a couple who have been a disaster together from the start, and never should have even been in the same zip code. They finally stopped fighting long enough to agree about 1 thing - they should divorce immediately. Little problem arose, though, in listing assets to be shared or reinstated solely to the one who brought it into the marriage. They discovered he was still married, that his ex wife lied and said she had filed. Excuse me, the person he said he couldn't trust so was divorcing her lied about the divorce and you're suprised?? Better check to see if you, through him, are liable for any of her shenanigans over the years, because it looks like she has quite the record for bad checks, drugs, driving while suspended... ha ha what a loser, right, you would never be so reckless as to leave your fate to someone like that! Just for fun, let's pull up your divorce to show him what a real divo...waitaminit. You aren't divorced either!! You left it up to your loser ex?? Oh, he told you he filed...
So yes, this married, about to divorce couple are married to others. I have no idea the legal ramifications if this, I don't pretend to know. I would think the 2nd marriage would be null and the 1st should be ended legally, completely, immediately. And neither should ever marry again.
Are you married? Am I? Yeah, those are now on the list.
But back to my chemo results. They are pretty sure they got it all between 2 surgeries, 2 rounds of cyberknife zappage, and 1 round of chemo. It's impossible to use any imaging except standard xrays on me because of all the metals in my body but they are fairly certain, and will carefully monitor me in the future for any symptoms or signs of regrowth.
"You have an adenoma of the pituitary gland, and we can't be sure exactly how extensive it is." Those are words I hope nobody ever has to hear, ever again. And to the 7 of my chemo session whom we lost along the way, I am so damned sorry. I won't forget you. And, selfishly, I'm so damned glad it wasn't me.
